From the age of leaving the child at home
- 17 Jun 09:30
Sometimes adults encounter a situation where it is necessary to leave a child at home alone. However, achieving a certain age does not mean that he is ready to spend his own time at home alone. For example, another baby for 5 years behaves more independently than any10-year-old child. What age does such a situation make children afraid of? Why is this happening? These and other similar questions are often asked by parents to themselves and to specialists. To avoid such problems, you need to know some features of the child's psyche and take into account the age and mental characteristics of children.
Table of contents
1. Signs of child's readiness to stay at home
itself 2. From which age one can leave a child at home to one
3. Childhood fears and their causes
4. Safety rules or how to leave a child without supervision
5. Child without surveillance on the street
6. Parental Responsibility
7. Instead of Conclusion
Signs of the child's readiness to stay at home
itself. Achieving a child of a certain age does not mean that he should start accustoming himself to staying at home. One can not, for example, give birth to situations in which children of friends, neighbors or friends have already mastered the practice of staying at home alone( for example, "here in the aunt Marina Sasha has long remained alone at home, and you are the same age with him").
To understand whether a child is ready to remain alone without the care of adults, it is necessary to find out:
- does he know how to act in case of force majeure, for example, in a fire;
- understands that it is impossible to let strangers into the house;
- will be able, if necessary, to call relatives, police, ambulance;
- will be able to independently engage in play or reading while the parents are absent at home.
From what age you can leave a child at home to one
According to experts, children begin to possess these skills for about 6-7 years. It is at this age that the child begins to realize his actions and associate them with possible consequences. However, not only age matters. An important role is played by the psychological state of a small person, his readiness for independent life.
Some parents are guided by the fact that their child is not afraid to be alone. But in addition, it is important that the child is safe: he did not set an apartment, did not eat pills, not injured, not burned, and so on. Only then can adults leave him at home and be confident that nothing will happen during their absence.
It is prohibited to push a child psychologically categorically. While he himself does not show readiness for independence, it is better not to force him. Excessive efforts on the part of parents can increase the child's fear.
In order for the child to become painlessly accustomed to independence, one needs to pay close attention to this. Training should be gradual. Starting with leaving literally for 10 minutes, you need to extend this time to an hour - two.
Mankind is now experiencing turbulent times. Adults should conduct preventive conversations with children from the very childhood on the topic "Safety".
A little man should clearly understand where his own, and where others are, that no uncle Koli from his father's work can not open the door that nobody can say that the parents are not at home at the moment.
He should clearly understand that you can not play with matches and electricity, protrude from the window or from the balcony and to what consequences can lead to his disobedience. Also, he must have a clear instruction on what to do in a similar situation.
In most cases, in the absence of an adult, the baby is doing what parents say. In this regard, he needs to give clear tasks: to build a castle, to knock a cat, to draw a picture of his family, etc. It is necessary to calculate the occupations for the entire time of the child's stay alone. Otherwise, he will have an untapped time, which he wants to spend on unknown as.
An important point: leaving a child sleeping is not recommended, especially if it happens for the first time. This event can serve as a fright and will continue to bring a lot of problems.
An attempt to leave one kid, not ready for this, for at least five minutes, may be fatal. You can not try destiny, you can not hope that it will "carry".
Adults may not be scheduled to depart for two hours instead of five minutes. And for this sometimes all the worst happens. And yet: it is stupid to instruct a little older or old child. An elder brother or sister of 6-8 years old, whatever adults they did not seem compared to a baby, the children themselves and can not adequately assess the situation. There were cases when older children tried to strangle or drown the younger ones so that they did not interfere with their crying.
As for elderly relatives, they are also waiting for their dangers here. By age, they can fall asleep, forget, or just do not have time to hear, if something happens. Even a completely healthy and young man who has returned from a change may fall asleep, that is, he is not able to stay with a young child. In other words, before leaving the child with such nurses, we must sober everything weigh.
Children's fears and their causes
Fear represents a negative location of the human mind( mind) caused by a real or illusory danger. It can be real, connected with an external direct existing threat and neurotic, associated with some unknown internal psychological fear. To avoid external danger is quite easy, to overcome the internal - the case is quite complicated, sometimes ends with clinical illness.
In psychology, the feeling of fear is defined as a category of dominant( fundamental) emotional processes that are inseparable from the personality traits of man since his birth. It stimulates the body's protective resources, warning about the threat, danger;promotes exacerbation of instinct, intuition of self-preservation.
Speaking about childhood fears, it should be emphasized that the isolates are born and acquired. Among the fears that are acquired, stand out inspirational fears, fears caused by excessive care, indifference, and unfavorable atmosphere in the family.
Under the guise of understanding, those fears that adults feed children, warning about danger. Sometimes such fears remain for life, and as an adult, a person becomes timid and very cautious.
If a child is locked up in his close world, does not communicate with friends, the risk of fear increases. Because the joint activity of children allows you to flutter your emotions in the usual environment and reduces the likelihood of a transition of fear into pathological fear.
Congenital fears are associated with age-related features. Children from one to three years are often afraid of harsh sounds, afraid to remain alone without mom, injections. At the age of five, fear of darkness and loneliness is added to fear of loneliness, grandmother-jacket. Then the child may start to fear the devils, death.
From seven to eleven years, the child is not afraid to be like everyone else. He is still afraid of predictions and prejudices. Teens are afraid to be a "blue stocking", afraid not to meet any ideal, a standard, and even get sick with some terrible illness.
To prevent empty fears in children, you can not:
- intimidate them so that they will listen;
- shame them for fear;
- leave them in an unfamiliar place.
It is necessary to show wisdom and generosity, to treat fears only kindly.
Safety rules or how to leave a child without supervision
Most importantly, leaving a child one, it is necessary to provide him with complete safety. It is extremely dangerous to leave the child in a closed house. In the event of a fire, he will not be able to leave him. You need to teach your children how to behave in case of a fire that has begun. The child should know that you need to quickly run out of the apartment and ask for help from adults, if possible, call the firefighters.
If a child stays at home without adult supervision, he must know and be able to:
- how to contact parents by phone;
- numbers of fire brigade, ambulance and police;
- rules for the use of gas and household items;
- rules for personal security.
Parents should be sure that the child will not open the door to an unfamiliar( or familiar) person, will not protrude from the windows, will not run out of the street, and so on.
A child without supervision on the street
There are many dangers in the street of our children. To avoid them, children need to talk constantly about how to behave and what to fear.
First of all, you need to determine the child's permissible paths. The path from school to home must be conditioned precisely. Let it be the safest way, illuminated and crowded. The child must understand that leaving the route is impossible under any circumstances.
Secondly, it's impossible to talk strictly about the fact that it is impossible to enter into conversations with unknown people, especially to teach them the details of family life. One-compound answers "I do not know", "Mom does not allow me to speak to strangers" can help get rid of uninvited guests.
Thirdly, train to ride in transport. That is, the general security rules must be learned as two or two. In addition, the child should be instructed about what to do if he accidentally drove his route or sat down in the wrong bus. He may apply for help to a driver or a conductor, to a person in the form.
Fourth, tell about the possibility of a threat on the street from thieves, bandits. If possible, you should not give the child expensive things. And if without it, the child should understand that it is better to immediately give the phone or a player, and not be crippled.
Fifth, do not accustom to the elevator.
Ability to use and apply in practice these simple rules of behavior will not only provide rest and safety to the baby, but may also, in some situations, save his life.
Recently, many cases of deaths due to the fault of adults have been recorded. According to Article 156 of the Criminal Code, parents bear full responsibility for the child, are punished for ill-treatment with him.
This includes systematic beatings, intimidation, cold weather and hunger. For this there is a fine of 40,000 rubles or imprisonment. But in reality, very rarely parents are punished for this article.
Article 125 of the Criminal Code provides for punishment for abandonment in danger. That is, the father left the child in danger, knowingly knowing it and having the opportunity to help him.
Instead of finding
All parents are looking forward to raising their baby from the very birth of their baby: when he finally starts to sit, walk, say the first word, the first tooth will cut through and so on. And the moment when the beloved child learns to become independent also belongs to the category of long-awaited ones. But it is very important not just to prepare a child for independence, but also to provide him with security.